- Altruistic lying occurs when we don't want someone to be hurt. We may want to protect their self-image, like telling them they look nice when they really look like a bum.
- Self-serving lies are designed to help us gain personally from the deception or to avoid an undesirable consequence.
- People lie to avoid harm or loss of resources.
- People lie to protect their self-image.
- People lie for entertainment.
- People lie to protect another person's resources, self-image, or safety.
- People lie to gain tangible or intangible resources.
You can read more about lying in your textbook. Check out pp. 324-325.
30 comments:
There a many types of lies, and I admit I have used many of them. I have used deception by commission or exaggeration by telling my friend I am only 20 minutes from picking them up when really I know it might take me longer. I have also altruistically lied when I have went to a friends apartment that they just moved into and they asked me if it was nice, and although it was small and quit dirty, I still replied that it was very inviting. I also have told self-serving lies by calling into work and saying I was sick, so I could attend a birthday party instead. In my opinion, I think that people use lies to protect one's image more than anything. People would lie, in a heartbeat to protect what people think of them.
I personally hate being lied too, so I try not to lie to anyone either. But it is hard at times when you dont want to hurt peoples feelings.
Everyone lies, even if they admit it or not.I told a friend that her hair was cute when it was actually ugly. Or the time my boss asked if they presentations for the meeting were fascinating and I told her they were when in fact they were not.Dont't feel bad. You're in good, dishonest company. People lie constantly,deception is pervasive in everyday life. But I dont tell hurtful lies and I dont like being lied to. Lakeisha M.Dodson
People lie for many reasons. I think everyone lies or at least has lied at some point. I myself have lied to protect someone else's feelings such as; not telling my husband his new haircut looks ridiculous instead I told him it looked just fine..good in fact!! I have also lied to protect my image such as; denying to an old boyfriend about talking to a new guy.. We all lie about many things and for many different reasons,but I hate lies and I hate being lied too so I try to not ever do so whether it hurts someone else's feelings or not.
Jeralyn Duncan
There are probably enumerable amounts of ways of living and some people have it down pat, but today i feel more and more people are getting the hang of "stretching the truth" or "exaggerating a little too much" or bold-faced lying. This however is key in our generations logic. I feel it makes seeing someones true intentions harder to see but it helps us fine-tune our mechanics for reading people's true feelings. If somebody is a bad liar they may tend to steer clear of lying rather than someone whose been lying their way out of most life situations and has become quite good at it. I am a very bad liar and most definitely steer clear of lying. My main reason for staying clear of liars and lying myself is because once you've grown around liars and learned their tricks it's easy to see it and harder to not get hurt when it happens. I guess a time when i truly lied and most likely had to apologize was when i took clothes from my sisters, but i learned quickly that wasn't going to fly so i pay for mine now. I've been in cases where i tell my sisters or friends with weak self-esteem their 80's outfit looked good when it didn't but everyone needs a little support in certain situations. i don't cinsider that a bad thing though. Lying always leads down a slippery slope and no one respects someone more than a person who you can say is 100% honest, a genuine person is one in a million now a days.
ways of lying***
I have done my fair share of lying! Sometimes I lie when I don't want to hurt someone or the fact that I'm ashamed of the truth. There is one person specifically that I have lied to the most, that would be my mom. That sounds terrible, right? My mom is the hardest person to talk to because she sees everything black & white with no middle ground, right or wrong and no in between. I started lying to here at a very young age because she would always express anger more than anything else. It was easier to lie to her and avoid any conflict as I knew if I had done anything wrong there would be consequences. My mother is the last person I should lie to but, the last person I want to disappoint, hence the reason for lying. Most of the lies are "Deception by Omission" as I tend to tell part of the truth and leave out the negatives. It has never had any impact on our relationship a mother & son but it has made her question me even when telling the honest truth. I think this could be avoided if she was more easy going and less judgmental.
That last post was mine!! Sorry, I couldn't edit to add my name!
Gary Chame Cox II
We all lie or even some would say stretch the truth I think that there are others that lie way more like my husband I think everything that her says is a lie its the lack of trust you loose when you lie and get caught in a lie I had lied one time to my husband about a friend that was calling he was just a friend and I said that he had the wrong number so my husbands feelings wouldnt get hurt because he my husband is very insecure person but he found out and now that trust is gone because he thinks that is all I do is lie
I think that its best to be truthful even though its hard sometimes because of the situations
Shannon kwiatkowksi
The biggest lie I have told recently is about my dad. He has been locked up for about 6 months now. When I run into people that have known me and my family for a long time and wonder how my parents are doing, I simply just say that they are doing good. It feels too weird to admit that I have not seen him in a while. I also think I do this to save my mother's face. She has so many emotions going on and tells everyone that he is in the army. This is an obvious lie to anyone that really knows my family, but they do not say anything about it.
The biggest lie I have told recently is about my dad. He has been locked up for about 6 months now. When I run into people that have known me and my family for a long time and wonder how my parents are doing, I simply just say that they are doing good. It feels too weird to admit that I have not seen him in a while. I also think I do this to save my mother's face. She has so many emotions going on and tells everyone that he is in the army. This is an obvious lie to anyone that really knows my family, but they do not say anything about it.
michelle arboe
Everyone lies, even the most honest people lie. We do it to avoid conflict or punishment, or to avoid hurting someone's feelings. I have too told someone they looked good when in fact they didn't. I have also made up excuses as to why I couldn't do something or go somewhere just because I didn't want to. However, I consider myself to generally be an honest person. I'm just human is all.
Lucinda Williams
People lied at some point in our lives, well some of ous. I have lied on some occation to my family, friends, and co-workers.For me lieying is not good and I am triying no to doing it, but the are sometimes I just have to doit. I don't like people that lied in order to get something for themselfs, or just to look nice to other people. On the other hand I think that are some cases where you need to lied in order to protect someone.
Miguel Lopez
I know all people lie to some extent. i know that i lie at interviews or stretch the truth at some point. For instance i may say wow this guy has texted me 20 times in the last 10 min when really he has only texted me like 5 times. Most people though say im brutally honest at times. "i have no sensor" ~Meagen
lies are all around us. you see them ever where from magazines to even our government. in my opinion most people dont really see the harm in it because its not so much thought of as an uncommon thing to do. for some people it is a natural response.i know that i have lied to do the things i want to do... most of these lies have been to my mom. she is a very strict catholic and makes all of her decisions by her religion. because i have such different morals and point of views than her, i find it easier to avoid the conflict by not telling her the whole truth about things. i try to do this as little as possible because i dont want to be thought of as a dishonest person.
-laura prout
everyone don't lie if you lie a white lie that doesn't hurt any one, but when people lie on other people thats bad. i really try not to lie its a bad habit
@ laura- I agree with you
Entertainment, entertainment, entertainment. My friendships are built on making up stuff and telling it to each other. Its great. Just today I was telling one of them how koala babies eat their siblings while in the pouch. Had him going for almost half an hour. I usually end it by telling them I was lying. That's part of the fun. Other than that I usually lie to protect others. When I'm sworn to secrecy its hard to not lie. I have had to cover for friends on quite a few occasions, but I draw the line at lying to spouses. That's a hot tub I won't jump into. M. Kriebel
People lie all the time. I can think of plenty of times I have lied, but most of the time it is usually to protect other people. I lie to my friends sometimes because if they are in a situation and they ask my opinion I agree with them because I don't want to hurt their feelings. That's just the kind of person I am. I have lied to my sister about what a guy thought about her because I really didn't like him and I wanted to protect her and keep her from going out with him. I don't think lying is really bad if you are trying to protect someone or their feelings. I have also lied about being sick and calling into work because I rather do something else. I lied here so I could have freedom for the night.
Kylie Smith
Unfortunately when someone lies to protect someone else, the other person may not always look at in a positive light. Some people would rather have the cold hard truth instead of a sugar coated lie.
michelle arboe
I think everyone lies now a days. Some people go as far as getting so caught up in there lies they began to believe them their selves! The real question is who doesn't lie?
some people lie and some don't lie
You're right, some people do want the truth, but is it our job to give it to them and how should we do it? I don't think that something is the"truth" doesn't exclude it from social conventions. Nor does it allow any of us to tell. Really it is up to us as speakers to know what truths should be told and what truths reserved for another time and our job as listeners to understand when someone is revealing truths out of concern or obligation.
I am not advocating lying, but I do think that simply saying "the truth is best" is dangerous. It can allow us to be callous and self righteous.
This got cut off of my last post (the one right before this):
We can't make these decisions in a vacuum. M. Kriebel.
I think the one thing we all agree on is that everyone has lied at one point in thier life. Whether it is to protect someone from getting there feelings hurt for wearing a shirt that is to small, or whether it is for our own personal gain. I think it is ok to lie if it isnt going to get anyone hurt and it helps someone else feel better about the way they look or feel. I do however disagree with lying for our own personal agenda, in most cases this type of lie will result in someone getting offended or being upset that you told a lie behind thier back. Overall i think the world would be a better place if lying was not tolerated to achieve personal success.
and I have lied for all those reasons. The main reason I feel that people or I will say the main reason I have lied is to not to have to deal with the conaquences of my actions
Deven Brown
DEVEN I THINK THATS WHAT ALOT OF MEN SAY SMART ANSWER
Ok, this is to eay for me I use to be a playboy and my favorite thing to say was even when I lie I tell the truth.Meaning when ask where I had been I would tell females in a playful way I was wit this big booty chick down the street. We would both laugh it off and start talking about something else.It was the truth but the way i said it sound like a lie,don't no if you can get any more deceiptful then that.
I have lied while in a seriouse relationship to keep from hurting the other person. I know they really care for me and i cared for them as well but I was young and wanted to try something she wasn't willing to do so I found others to participate and had to lie to my girlfriend when she found out to keep from hurting her.That's when I gave up my players card.
Marcus Robinson
the playboy post belongs to me.
Marcus Robinson
marcus you silly
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